Divorce and the Start of School

If you are going through a separation and/or a divorce, please make sure that you are mindful of what your children are going through as well.  Children are often anxious with the school year starting and they need to know that both parents are going to support them.  Never discuss who is paying for what when it comes to school clothes or supplies in front of the children.  Parents should split these costs because they are extra and the items will help your children succeed in school.  Find out who your child’s teacher is and how you can get in touch with them.  Make sure that you attend the open house so your child knows that you care about them and think school is important.  If you have a separate address from your spouse, then make sure the school has it so that you can be sent a duplicate report card.  Don’t expect your spouse to let you know the grade situation because if you are divorcing then it is up to you to find out the information.

There are all sorts of programs at school that can help with kids going through transition.  Talk with the school counselor and see if there are divorce support groups your child can attend.  If money is tight then speak with the FAN (Family Access Network) advocate at your school.  They are a wonderful resource and can point you in the right direction for medical insurance, food sources, clothing and school supply sources.

Make sure you let the other parent know of the activities your child is involved in.  Do not sign the child up for soccer and expect your spouse to pay half unless there is agreement.  It is better to get both parents on board.  Make sure you send an e-mail reminder of a big night in your child’s life.  There is nothing worse than seeing a child searching the audience for a parent and then being disappointed.  It can be a hassle but think of how much it means to your child.  Always put your children’s needs first and you won’t go wrong.  Should you have further questions on any family law issue, please consult a family law attorney and get some advice.  It will be the best money you ever spent.