Family Pets and Divorce – Often Forgotten We often are so focused on the kids, the house or our own flood of hard emotions through divorce that we overlook the family pet.  More often than not, I have clients who have family pets and often they don’t know how they want to share or handle them as part of the separation or divorce.  This of course is a very emotional topic for most people.  Especially after long-term marriages, the family has come to consider their pet as a family member. Normally, the couples I work with can reach an agreement about what is best andRead More →

Being Thankful In Divorce: Find Yourself this Holiday It is holiday time again and I want to share some positive things that can happen in divorce or separation.  I have run into clients who six months or a year after divorce, in some cases even following a long term marriage, could not be doing better.  They tell me their children are thriving and that they are better friends with their former spouse now.  I know this is true because there is no more nitpicking about Husband and Wife issues and that they are now focused only on issues regarding their children.  I can’t help butRead More →

One Central Oregon Family Law Attorney’s CLE Perspective I recently attended the 2015 Family Law Annual Conference held in Lincoln City, Oregon.  There were over 700 family law attorneys present.  The conference provided an excellent opportunity to talk with lawyers all over the state.  We attended classes on a range of subjects: vocational experts and spousal support cases, Deconstructing the Process of Conflict:  How to Support Clients  Without Losing Yourself, QDROphenia, Legalization of Marijuana and the Impact on Family Law, Elder abuse, Social Media and family law, Enforcing Judgments, Taxes in a Dissolution Case, Third party custody cases, Ethics, Parenting time – birth through age three and finally a legislative update as well as aRead More →

Parent’s Guide to Confusing Family Law Terms Clarification of the Most Commonly Confused Terms in Family Law People are often confused about terms used in the family law arena. I have prepared this guide to help clarify some of the family law terms I hear confused most often. By clarifying I hope to help your family to a healthier more positive and peaceful resolution. Please share this guide to confusing family law terms with any parents considering divorce or separation. Sole & Joint Custody I often hear, “I want sole custody so that I can have my kids more often”. The terms sole and jointRead More →

Necessary Communication When Your Children Return to School The new school year will soon be starting and you want to make sure that you are prepared. School clothes and school supplies can add up to be a major expense. These extra items are not generally covered by child support. Make sure you talk to your ex or soon to be ex and have a clear plan of what it is going to cost and who will pay. You will find a lot of frustration if you go out and spend a bunch of money and then find that your ex won’t pay half of theRead More →

Untold Secrets of Collaborative Law I recently attended a conference in Portland called, “Secrets of a Satisfying Family Practice”. The conference was attended by attorneys and mental health professionals committed to helping people through divorce without litigation. We learned all about collaborative law which involves bringing in professionals to help couples through the process in a constructive, non-hostile way. Professionals involved may include divorce coaches, accountants, child therapists, etc. I attended classes on how to work with other attorneys on cases specifically attempting to keep them non hostile. It was a breath of fresh air to be with other committed professionals, who believe as IRead More →

Co-Parenting and the Holidays Just a friendly reminder that there can be additional stress on children during holidays.  Protect the kids this holiday season by using the following tips: 1.  Put your kids first by remembering that children love Thanksgiving and Christmas.  You should put the children center stage.  Divorce and Separation can be traumatic and try to establish new traditions if the old ones won’t work anymore. 2.  What children really want is your time!  Forget about spending a fortune on items that will go by the wayside, instead plan fun inexpensive events that allow you to hangout with your kids. (ex: go pickRead More →

Oregon Supreme Court at Bend High School The Oregon Supreme Court heard oral arguments at Bend High, October 8th. Lillian teaches a first period Mock Trial Class at Bend High with history teacher Pat McHenry and they were honored that their students were selected to attend both oral arguments and then have lunch with the Justices and the attorneys. They studied the two cases that were heard by the Court: A faith healing case that involved a woman giving birth early and the baby dying 9 hours later. She did not seek medical care and chose prayer instead. The second case was a criminal case involving search and seizureRead More →

Real Estate and Divorce 2014 Continuing Education Series “Real Estate and Divorce” with Lillian Quinn, Attorney and Counselor of Law   Lillian graduated with a BA from the University of Montana. She then went on to law school at Northwestern School of Law/Lewis and Clark, in Portland, OR in 1992. She has been practicing law by the State of Oregon since. She opened her practice here in Bend in the spring of 2003, where she was determined to offer people the chance to avoid litigation. Date: Thursday, March 20, 2014 Time: 1:30pm – 3:30pm Place: 397 SW Upper Terrace Drive Class Topic: Law and RegulationsRead More →

Mock Trial 2014 The case was Mia Perez, a minor, by and through her parent Casey Perez v. Shannon Dempsey, Jordan Reddick, and Rubicon Soccer Club, Inc. Elite soccer club player bumps her head one too many times.  Whose fault is it? Bend Senior High had two teams participate at Deschutes County Courthouse on March 1, 2014 against other high school teams.Read More →