Summer Vacation and Divorce

Summer Vacation and Divorce

June 2012

It is hard to believe that summer is right around the corner. Without the structure of the school year children can experience additional stress, if mutually agreed upon plans are not made in advance for their summer vacation. It is important that parents take the time long before the last day of school to plan out their summer vacation schedule.

Many parents rely on the Deschutes Parenting Plan or another plan ordered by the court to guide their children’s summer schedules. The parenting plan states that “prior to May 1, the non-residential parent shall notify the residential parent, in writing, of the summer parenting time schedule. If the non-residential parent fails to provide the summer schedule by May 1st, then the residential parent shall notify the non-residential parent of the summer schedule, in writing, by May 20th.” For example, if the Mother has family coming into town when the children are scheduled to be with the Father, it is worth discussing these conflicts and being flexible and planning these vacations out in advance. The children need to know that their time with family and vacations is valued above the prescribed parenting plans. Some people choose to go to Court to fight over dates like these. Instead of spending the money going to Court, why not sit down this month and split up the summer vacation equally given differing vacation dates and family visits. While you take the time to divide your vacation schedule, make the extra effort to agree upon activities and camps for your children to attend. Only those activities that parents mutually agree upon can be expected to share cost. If one parent signs their children up for a summer camp without the knowledge and consent of the other parent, they should expect to provide in full the cost of these activities.

I’m sure your children are getting excited for their summer vacation; give them the gift of strategically planning out their time spent with family. The key this summer is to be flexible within a well laid out plan. Enjoy your family this sunny season and keep your family life stress-free by planning ahead!